Spring, a season most known for its effects on bloom, color and rebirth, is also known as the period for establishing new LOVe. As the season's winds deliver us a climate for wonder and wander, the moment for SINGLES to arrive at the conclusion of TAKEN hits a ponderous point. Most people whom are yet to be in a meaningful relationship up until now are entering the SPRING of LOVe or for others LOATHe.
All in all, after a while relationships turn out to become the equivalent to standing on line for a ride at an amusement park. We see the excitement and desire the experience to land a winning partnership in a relationship but after a certain amount of disenchantment (not enjoying the ride or feeling that the experience was a total waste of time and emotions), we as adults become less willing to stand on line.
The days of venturing from partner to partner or better said potential cell mate to definite cell, I mean SOUL mate loses its luster. The excitement remains and the spirit of the conquest precedes the resolve of landing a winner. So, we never really let go of the hopes of feeling the jitters and we all desire the "head over heels" effect but after a level of (relationship) MATURITY, we know that the jitters do not last forever. Most interestingly we come to terms with understanding that after having been through a share of relationships the "jitters" might never occur like they once did.
As mature adults there is a plight we are faced with after walking the "amusement park" of domestic findings. The conclusion we arrive at is, that our time and bodies are far too valuable to waste on disenchanting experiences. We learn to take more caution of not hurting, over-committing and emotionally investing ourselves and someone else to our concepts of "LOVe".
Most people think of it as settling and the more optimistic folk see it as adjusting their criteria for gaining a domestic companion. Often time, being stuck on finding someone HOT will deliver you to a COLD place. We are now welcomed to entertaining the notion of finding MR./MS. "Y", because we really should not be thinking "future X" and after "X" our alphabet introduces us to the letter "Y", so it turns the experience to a "Why Not?". And I mean "Why Not?", in the sense of giving a shot at building significance in starting a meaningful relationship. The "Why Not" experience replaces the "jitters" in a more logical sense and it enables us to better decide on our commitments to a significant other.
In today's world of online flirty socializing, speed dating, mall hawking and the occasional dreadful "friend meet friend" set up, we must remember that we exist in TIME and SPACE. Time waits for nothing other than a minute to turn into an hour and space further enables the process. Our concepts of finding the proper "WHY NOT" should revolve around acceptance and compromise so that we can distinguish from the desire of glitz and must. In other words replacing our wish for EVERYTHING for a grip on SOMETHING and with time turning SOMETHING in to EVERYTHING.
Having spoken to men & women existing, dating and awaiting their "WHY NOT?", in the most congested cities in America the conclusion is clear. We must lay to rest our fears of being caught in the empty space of solitude and wait things out until the proper situation arises rather than allowing any situation to arise. Fear and hormones are enemies of logic and the more conservative virtues will become reinforced as our patience thickens.